What’s Happened To Our Human-To-Human Connection?

grandmother-love-453131_960_720Are we so connected to our devices that we’re forgetting the human connection?

I fear it is so. How about you?

It seems like hardly anyone picks up a telephone just to say, “Hi, how are you?” anymore.

It’s someone’s birthday, they get a text or a message on Facebook. Someone passes onto the spirit world and condolences are spread the same way (i.e., text, Facebook). Does anyone take time to write and send a handwritten note?

What happened to the human-to-human connection via voice or, better yet, face-to-face?

Everyone’s busy – so busy looking down (at smartphones, tablets, etc.) that they forget to look up!


I get it. I have days where I send a text or email to get a quick answer rather than make a phone call.

However, when it comes to those we care about, I believe we can all make time for them. Seems we all make time for clients in business or for emergencies that pop up.

But WHY? Why don’t more people make time for relationship building and nurturing where you pick up the phone and say, “Hello, how are you? How’s life? Want to get together sometime soon?”

Is it because we are too connected via social networks – we see photos posted on Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, etc. – that we think we know what’s going on in someone’s life? I think there’s more going on in people’s lives than what most of us see on social networks so it’s unfair to assume that that’s enough of a connection.

Don’t get me wrong, I love social!

Many of the folks I’m connected to on social networks I may not have had the chance to “meet” otherwise (and because of distance, may have not met in-person yet – but certainly hope to). However, it will never replace my desire for face-to-face, smile-to-smile, a warm embrace or a voice on the other end of the phone that says, “So good to talk to you.”

I’m interested to read what you think. With all of today’s technology, do you feel more connected or disconnected to those around you? Please share your thoughts in the comment section below because I’d love to hear from you. Thanks a million. Here’s to your sweet success.

Debra Jason

Marketing & writing with heart, not hype at at The Write Direction
A recipient of the “Creative Person of the Year” award, Debra educates and empowers creative solopreneurs and enthusiastic business owners to create a lifestyle business that provides them with the flexibility, fun and freedom to do what they love. She also inspires you to communicate your marketing message in a way that captivates and converts your prospects into loyal, raving fans - even if you have been struggling with how to transform your ideas into words in the past.


  1. Debra,

    Having spent 20+ years in the wireless and tech industry I see both sides. How we use technology, not the technology itself, to me matters most. If you’re at a social event, a networking event, etc and always on your phone or tablet there’s an issue. We’re no longer focused on the present and who we are suppose to be connecting with at that moment. Social events suddently become anti-social.

    With a friend having been in Peru for 2 weeks and my best friend still in Turkey (month abroad), we can still be in touch. We’ve even been able to talk to each and have video calls at no cost thanks to things like Facebook Messenger.

    It’s all in how we choose to use the tools we have at our disposal.

    • There is definitely a plus and minus side to the discussion Robert.
      Technology can certainly be a blessing when staying connected to friends/family/colleagues overseas. Skype and FaceTime are amazing tools for that!
      Today, I had the pleasure of chatting with someone I have only ever “met” on social networks. Now that we’ve spoken voice-to-voice, it takes that relationship to a new level and we’ll look forward to meeting in-person when the time comes (and I look forward to meeting you one of these days as well).
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
      Debra Jason recently posted…Open The Door To 40 Times More Opportunities On LinkedIn With This One StepMy Profile

  2. There is something beautiful about being intentional with interactions in relationships. I love a fun, random voicemail, hand written note or a surprise visit. Social is great for keeping up to date with lives of others, but isn’t the only way we should maintain relationships.

    • I love getting those handwritten notes (as well as sending them) and yesterday I received a surprise visit from two friends who had been gone for several months. It was so wonderful to see them in person, via getting a text saying “we’re back.”
      As I think you know, I love social – I have virtually met folks I don’t think I would have ever met otherwise because of networks like Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram and Twitter. And, we’ve nurtured lovely connections that, when we finally met in person, we greeted one another with hugs (vs. handshakes).
      Debra Jason recently posted…Open The Door To 40 Times More Opportunities On LinkedIn With This One StepMy Profile

  3. Debra,

    I’m willing to put that extra effort into deepening connections, especially face-to-face. And for putting in the effort for my existing ones (just got back from visiting my parents). I’m not quite as good with the phone, but I am working at reaching out more by phone. As I start my 2017 planning I am actively looking for more ways that I can move beyond social and connect 1-on-1.

    Thanks for the great reminder.



  4. Fran Strauss says:

    Not a quick or easy answer!
    I’m now connected to many people from my past (like you Deb!). I appreciate and enjoy the FB connections, I may have lost, with the passage of time and our busy lives. I also love Linked In for business. It has been very valuable.
    What I have been observing (and don’t like) is how technology/social media is intruding on what used to be real time/real connection -in person time, real phone calls, birthday cards, real not virtual connections. Imho, the face to face time with others was replaced with the phone call. The phone call is often replaced by the email or the Video call. Now it seems the text is sufficient. It seems it’s replacing “all of the above”. At times I’m guilty of it myself BUT I dont like it;). Makes you wonder what the future holds😀

    • Fran, first, thanks for stopping by.
      Next, I hear you loud & clear. I thoroughly enjoy the connections I’ve made via social networks with folks I may have never “met” before. And, it has been great to reconnect with friends, like you, this way as well.
      What is disheartening to me is just what you referred to – people who used to reach out by phone and connect or to “make a date” to connect and catch up with one another. Some folks don’t answer their phones and, when you leave a voice mail, they don’t even return the call. I also get frustrated when I see friends constantly checking their phones when I’m sitting across the table from them, but then, if I text them, I don’t hear back. It can be frustrating to say the least.
      Glad we are connected via social even if we haven’t seen each other face-to-face in a long time, it’s nice to “see” you online.
      Debra Jason recently posted…Open The Door To 40 Times More Opportunities On LinkedIn With This One StepMy Profile

  5. I find it ironic that I am responding via a ‘social media’ connection. As a Life Transition Coach I feel, see, think and understand the impact of ‘face-to-face’ discussions. There is so much more to absorb. I often grasp a deeper meaning of some words through the voice inflection and facial expressions of folks I am listening to, and it’s a lot more fun. Even the world’s most renowned authors and editors agonize over written word structure so as to be sure the ideas, concepts and emotions of a sentence are realized by the reader, as the writer intended. Smiles, frowns, laughs (lol) complete the story in a way words simply do not. That being said, we are caught in our own progression of communication. Email and text are simple avenues by which to send a message,… and it gets the task off our desks NOW. We attempt to add ‘definition’ to our correspondence using emojis, CAPS, (lol), etc., but it truly isn’t the same as face-to-face communication. 🙂

    • Hi Charlie, thanks for sharing your thoughts here. One of the reasons I love speaking is because of the human-to-human connection – as you mentioned, the smiles, frowns, and laughs make a world of difference.
      It is easy to mistake someone’s intention when reading a text, email, etc., which is why picking the phone may be a good idea in those instances (i.e., to ensure clear & friendly interaction). However, you’re right about the concept that it gets the task done quickly and easily and in some instances that is enough.
      I don’t think anything can every replace the value of face-to-face communication.
      Thanks a million once again. I appreciate you!
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